和一个分居的男人约会然后遇到问题？There are some important situations to watch out for when the guy is not divorced yet.Most women don't realize tremendous downside of dating while separated.
Avoid Dating a Separated Man
“Dear Ronnie The Dating 亚博体彩Coach for Women,，
My intuition is telling me to walk away from my current romantic situation but there are other factors involved and I don't want to make a mistake.I met an old flame again in June and he asked me out on a date.He is currently separated from his wife and has been for almost two years.我们都50多岁了。
I went out on three dates with him before he told me that he'd told his wife about us.在这之后的一个星期内，他告诉我她一直在给他发短信，给他很大的压力，他感到内疚。On our 4th and 5th date he suddenly went very cold on me.The last date was an absolute nightmare.
He then informed me that he was going to see his wife to ‘sort things out and move on one way or the other' and he hope I understood!I was fine with that but,heard nothing for a few days so naturally I was a little anxious when he eventually text me.He said things were really bad between then and then had loads to sort out.
I informed him that I wasn't happy with the way things were going between us and suggested I give him some space which he agreed to.He said he would text me when ‘his head was sorted'.那是一个多月前的事了。I've had a few texts since but nothing to indicate that we are getting back together.
I bumped into him recently and he was a little drunk but all over me.I admit to pushing him to make a few dates along the way but have never text or called him before he has done so.I've not always been available to meet him also which he did not like.I'm not sure if I've pushed him away or if it's really his circumstances that are keeping away.我过去一直在推开他们，这次我非常努力地去了解我的行为。
Should I walk away or wait a while before moving onto someone else.
First off,这种情况正是我鼓励女性避免与至少一年没有离婚的男性约会的原因，我也会告诉男性同样的事情。在你进入下一次约会之前，问他离婚多久了，如果不到9个月到一年，walk away!！
There are a number of things you mentioned that puzzle me about this liaison.I wonder why you're interested in dating this man after:
- He went cold on you during two dates
- The last date was a nightmare
- He's still clearly attached to his not yet ex wife
- He was rude enough to text with his not yet ex during your date
- He's not emotionally available
As a dating 亚博体彩coach for women,I say any of these is reason enough not to see him again!他是什么让他值得你的时间或感情？？
You Are Compartmentalizing
当你喜欢一个吸引你注意力的男人的某些部分，而这些部分会让你忽略其他使他不吸引人的特征时，that's how I KNOW you are compartmentalizing.这个词是什么意思？你脑子里有一个隔间可以放你喜欢的关于他的所有东西，还有一个单独的隔间，你可以忽略你不喜欢的东西。
What you need to realize is these things are all PART OF THE SAME MAN.You cannot separate them!He is a package deal and it's time you start seeing him as the sum of his parts.If you look at him again this way,我打赌你会很快决定继续前进。
No matter how cute,fun,intelligent,rich this man is,he is also emotionally unavailable,依附于他的妻子，and well…rude.
当这个人对你说他必须sort things out,“that's ManSpeak for"我再也见不到你了”.You hung around wondering how long it would take.He said he hoped you would understand,but you missed his meaning.He was exiting the situation.Next time a man says he ‘s got to sort stuff out,说再见，因为这正是他的意思。
All on His Terms
You said that perhaps you pushed him away by not being available when he wanted to see you.Hey,you're busy.You said you pushed other men away like this too.I do encourage my clients to make themselves available and if you can't make a date,then suggest another option.But you didn't push this particular guy away.
A Pawn in His Marital Drama Game
就个人而言，I can't help but think he used you to make his wife jealous.Otherwise why the heck would he ever tell her about you?There's only one reason – and that is jealousy.我认为他希望通过和你约会来挽回她，这是和一个分居的男人约会的巨大风险。
Given everything I've explained in this post,I hope you see the wisdom and only real choice of moving on to find a new man.You deserve better than dating a separated man and this kind of dysfunctional situation.
I hope you meet men who are divorced for more than a year and healed of the trauma.选择和准备好约会的人约会，are emotionally available,寻求严肃的关系。The men you date should not text or talk on the phone during your date and show you far more respect and interest.除非有紧急情况，否则你是值得一个人全神贯注的。
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